Forward by Don Juan Quixote

When I first thought to research and write this book, I mused that it might be possible to plumb the depths of the female sex psyche and arrive at a complete, thorough and all encompassing understanding of women’s sex fantasies. My purpose was to help women on a journey of self discovery, and to aid heterosexual men in understanding what arouses their ladies to heights of passion. Now, after conversing with literally thousands of women on the subject of what their “Hidden Bouquet” of sex fantasies are, I realize the great folly in ever fully arriving at a complete, thorough, and all encompassing understanding of such a vast and complex subject.

Now, I feel a bit like Christopher Columbus standing at the shores of a vast uncharted Brave New World. For those women who have said to me, “If I tell you what turns me on, then where is the mystery?”...Fear not dear lady. I have come to realize that the vast array of what turns women on and the great and abiding mystery that is the female sex psyche is largely untouched, and in no great danger of being completely understood.

This work is merely a scratch on the surface of the continent we call the female subconscious, and in no way represents all that a woman is, or can be…My hope is that this book will help those people who are as deeply mystified by the subject as I am.

I was raised in a very sheltered situation. In fact, as a young man you would have been hard pressed to find anyone who was more mystified by what women want out of sex. In my early twenties, while attending the University of Minnesota, I happened across Nancy Friday’s pioneering book “My Secret Garden”…I bought it, read it voraciously. Then I read it again.

Since that time, I have returned again and again to that book, and the wellspring of knowledge that has burst forth from it. At the time of Nancy Friday’s pioneering book, there where no other books on the subject. Now, there are whole sections of the bookstore covering it.

This book is a slightly different approach to quelling ignorance on the subject of what women wants from a man.

I must say that some 25 years, two marriages, three children, , many and many sexual relationships later, I may have made some progress in that regard…But I humbly realize that before me lies a great undiscovered frontier that stretches as far as the eye can see, and as far as the human brain can imagine. I would even be so bold as to say that no man will ever fully understand the great mystery that is woman. So, for you women out there who hang your hat on being purposefully mysterious as a method of enticing men and women alike, rest assured that this book is not a threat to your “air of mystery.”

However, it is my hope that this book will help people go on a quest…A journey of self discovery into the belly of the brave new world called the mystery of female arousal, and come out with a deeper knowledge which will enrich your life, and greatly increase the joy you get from sex.

The idea here is, for you to stroll through the secret garden, picking and choosing your very own “hidden bouquet” of sex fantasies. Then you may, as other women have, discover within yourself beautiful, fragrant, new flowers for your personal bouquet that you never knew existed. And so, let us stroll together through the secret garden of sex fantasies that some women have been kind enough to share with me, and see which flowers might appeal to you.

I have organized these fantasies from what seem to be the most common and acceptable (from my small sampling of thousands of women), to the more forbidden, uncommon, and exotic. Feel free to touch, smell, and taste each flower to see what it is that you like and don’t like in the secret garden…All the while realizing that this is merely a small part of the vast, far reaching garden that is the female sex psyche. Enjoy!